Being too problematic about a certain issue is not always a solution to every problem. There are a lot of ways for us to cope up with all the hardships that we encounter in life. Sometimes if we get what we want, we come to realize that it is not what we need. We have been blinded at first by the situation that will soon make us realize how unreasonable the decision was.
I haven't experienced such a relationship that will give me more happiness than pain or that which can be called as somewhat "close to perfect" relationship. All of us are been wanting to have such kind of a relationship with the ones we love but after some time we will realize that everything is going in vain and we are not happy anymore. Those are the times that both of you are already hurting each other unintentionally. At this very moment, the next solution you have in mind is breaking up. Letting all the tension between you cool down for a while but how can you do it if the love is still there; alive inside your heart.
When I was a little boy, I always thought that i will be happy when I fall in love but now, I have realized that if you start to learn how to love and give your heart to someone, you also give them the right to hurt you. The reason why I am suffering is not because my love has end but because it still continues even after the relationship is over.
According to one of my favorite lines in a movie, the three things that cannot be hidden are poverty, cough and love. At the time that you try to hide it these three things appear even more clearly. But most of the time, we really want to hide it like love. If you want to hide love, just cry. Let your heart be free from all those emotions by crying. Let it all flow in your eyes like it will be over as soon as your eyes get dry. If your head gets tired and empty, then cry again. Just learn how to let go of your emotions by crying, it will help you feel better.
Most of the time in my life, I have cried. I have been hurt more often than being happy. I have learned that some of us were just born to be lucky to experience more happiness than pain. But I am not one of them. Sad to say I am not, and maybe you are thinking that you are too because you have just cried last night like me.
If I am sad or in pain, I do the scribbling technique. I write all of the things that I am feeling in a piece of paper while crying. When I have written everything, I will just burn it into pieces and let its ashes go with the wind. Through that I can feel like I ma letting go of the problem and just face whatever that will happen in the next days. It's just one way of saying "God, I am letting you finish the problem that I have, I am gonna give it all to you."
Another thing that I always do to lessen the heartache is by cooking. It will make you busy as the time pass so fast. Another thing is writing a poem, or composing a song. You can write a poem with all your emotions on it and then if you know how to put some music on it, then that's better. These were just small things that I know but it is helping me a lot.
Still, it is better to fall in love and be in pain instead of not even experiencing how to love and be loved. In order for us to learn and grow, we need to experience all the hurts and pain until the time that we found the true happiness that we have been waiting for. Remember that if you are still losing people in your life that means so much to you, it just means that there is someone that is much better than the person you lost. If you haven't found the true happiness then it is still not the end of a love story.
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